Hello,

I also experienced what your son is going through. I don't have accidents anymore (not since age six), but there are days I "forget" to use the restroom and when I finally go it is an urgent state (I can finally feel I have to go) and painful to go then. I also suffer "constipation" but do not think that is the real issue anymore. Fibers, laxatives and such do not help and I can still have trouble going even after weeks of not (yes, you read that right ).

Memory is a part of it, but I think there is a "learning" involved in "how" to make the body go when it doesn't sense it needs to. It is very hard to explain. If I try to go "number two" before my body finally just can't not go anymore, it is painful and hurts me in a bad way. I can force myself to go, but it is a long painful process and I had to learn how to do it.

I am also never thirsty and sensing when hungry and full is a problem, and many times food from my dinner the night before is in my stomach in the morning making me ill.

I think that is all inter related. I can't say that is like your son... but maybe similar? He is quite young still and at his age I never realized how not normal I was...

I learned to control my muscles, flex and relax on command... (strong muscles is what prevents accidents for me and relaxing is how I go when I do not feel the need to go, but "remember" to go). It is automatic now that I am older.

I don't generally tell anyone about this issue I have... but I figure if it can help your son, or possibly help you find some answers...

I wish you all the best, and my heart goes out to your son