(02-25-2012, 12:23 PM)Jaffa Wrote: I am having problems with my 5 yr old and not sure if he is just not listening or that he misinterprets what is said.
We get into screaming and falling to the floor at things I have said. Even if the answer to his question is what he wants.
I am confused, is this him expecting me to say the opposite of what he wants or could this be something to do with what he hears gets mingled on its way.

Sometimes it's things like his socks hurting him so I say take them off and he then starts crying saying "I can't go to school then."

Anyone here have the same problem.

Hi, My name is Angela and I have SPD too. I am 29 years old and I still have conversations like what you described. For me, the problem is that I have many thoughts and issues going over in my mind that I am trying to consolidate and resolve. Most of the time, I can't find the solution on my own and, what's worse, I can't communicate any of this very well to my family. If I do succeed in explaining one part of my problem in the hope of getting help to solve something, the answer usually proves to me that I was unsuccessful in explaining my real needs.

Your son may have more on his mind than he is able to communicate. And while the socks may be a real problem, it may not be the only solution he needs, either at the moment or in the long run.

I am learning that it is much easier, and sometimes only possible, to figure out the real issues and the best solutions before they affect my day; it is best to have a plan and be prepared before hand. Here are some helpful communication tools: chore charts, visual schedules, and PECS (picture exchange communication system).

Hope this helps.