(Sorry, this is responding to a post that got lost into the internet void, I was typing it up when the maintenance occurred)

(02-26-2012, 05:43 AM)Jaffa Wrote: Thank you for your replies, at least I know it could be SPD.
Knofskia I don't know what you mean by PECS. His paediatrician also said chore chart may help but I don't know how to implement it. Do I do it for the whole day, or just for getting dressed or just when he having difficulties. So many questions I am sorry but some days I wonder if I can be of help to him cos he will scream and flop to floor at everything and I mean everything.

Include things he doesn't have difficulty with, so that he can see the success in that part is my immediately response.

Quote:If it starts early in the morning it goes on all day except in school. Then I feel it must be something to do with me.

If he's like me, then what it has to do with you is actually positive about you. My meltdowns are very different at home (with my boyfriend only), than in public.

At home, they look much worse. There is much more screaming, my emotions are much more visible. But at home its safe. That's where I can show emotions, and because I feel safe there, my meltdowns look different (and its not an active decision. I hate talking about this because it makes me feel like it'll look like I'm choosing when different meltdown paths occur, when if I could choose, there'd never be screaming).

In public, I don't feel safe. I can't trust others. I know they hurt me if I react visibly. I lock it all away. These, while not visible, are actually much worse for me. They lead to much worse visible meltdowns. They lead to constant pain rather than short outbursts. They are clear meltdowns-type reactions if you know where to look, but they don't look explosive.

As I need to add to all my comments about meltdowns, I don't know if my meltdowns are too influenced by the whole ASD thing to be of help to people who's children are only SPD, but it might be good to know that visible meltdowns don't actually necessarily mean worse, just more compact.