(02-27-2012, 05:46 PM)Jaffa Wrote: Valkyrie you have sparked something in my head about the rules that I had not thought about.
I have realised that once you have set a pattern it is done and I have difficulty changing that.
For example when he needed to take medicine and wouldn't we came to a compromise but it back fired on me. The reason is I said take your medicine, have a drink then you can have some sweets. This he did and threw up, why. Cos I omitted to say swallow in between each action and he did all three at once making the stuff in his mouth foul and he gagged. End of medicine. Never to be done again.
I see that with the socks I am omitting to say change the socks for others. I just say take them off which as you say goes against the rules.
I will try that. I think my son has other issues besides SPD but no one is giving any clues and I am not sure what it is.
Thank you all for the help it's great to have others input it makes me see things in a different light.

I have learned that when I give my SPD boy directions, I have to give him every step, in order, with no omissions or life will not be good. And sometimes if he seems a bit distracted, I ask him to repeat the last one or two back to me.

We have a lot of issues with "mis-hearing" things, where he comes out with really bizarre questions like "What antelope?" when I say "Bring me the envelope". Whenever he does that (he's 12) I ask him "Does that make sense?" then "If you think about it, what word would make sense there?" This problem I know is genetic/biological in origin because his father (my ex) with whom my son has not lived for more than 4 years, does this constantly. My son is not as bad as his father with it, and I'm trying very hard to teach him to s-l-o-w down and think before he bursts out with something. He's actually making progress with this lately, so there is hope that with patience and coaching there will be improvement.

However, if he is on meltdown track when he mis-hears something, that's the fast route to disaster.