Hi everyone. I am wondering how some of you adult SPDers ask for help. I am having a majorly hard time with it. The only way I can explain it is - I am not doing something for reasons ABC and D, and therefore how could I ask the kids? - especially the youngest who has many of the issues I do, regarding SPD. Even when I do meltdown, and get some help, or come up with ways that would make some of the chores more manageable - DH, and sons do not follow suit in an consistant manner - so I end up blowing my lid - and feel like I am bitching my life away - to get HELP. I have went as far as writing with Sharpies on walls. This morning - new, wet towel left on nasty carpeted steps by DH. Full sink of dishes made by DS last night. Soccer equipment all over kitchen left by other DS last night. I mean - when you are a 42yr old mother - who cant keep focused from room to room, how in the He** are you supposed to focus your Kids - you know? I am trying so hard to cope with things, and end up feeling like a chronic bitchomatic that "I" cant stand. After 42yrs, I feel I am pretty resourcefull - yet I am failing miserably at getting my DH and Sons to HELP, or even be responsible for basic stuff, like flushing a toilet, getting dirty clothes where they gotta be, taking trash out, etc, etc, etc. I know some of you know my issues, but I feel like in my house - its the blind leading the blind - to misery. UGH