I'm sending extra hugs your way! I hear your concerns and totally understand them. I view what you've written from several different vantage points. First, as an "older" mom who feels like the active parenting time in her life is winding down, I understand your feelings that you don't want to start all over raising another child, which I agree based on what you've written, you will probably end up doing if the child is not adopted. Second, I am a trained foster parent and have seen or heard about your very situation numerous times. Third, I'm an adoptive mother of a beautiful girl, whose teenage mother found after 21 months, she just couldn't care for her any more--and didn't want to either. Fourth, I am a Probate Court Clerk, and in 20 years as such, I've seen your situation played out in the court too many times to count. In my experience, it is likely your daughter will make an attempt to parent the child for a short time, probably unsuccessfully, and you will seek guardianship or termination of her parental rights through the court. Your daughter has the right to consent at that time to having her parental rights terminated, at which time you could accept guardianship of your grandchild or contact an adoption agency about placing the child for adoption. Although placing the child at birth is sometimes easier for all involved, children under age 2 are eagerly waited for by adoptive parents. If your daughter does not bond with the baby or neglects the baby, don't put off seeking court involvement or contacting an adoption agency who will help you maneuver the entire process from termination of parental rights to adoption. It takes a lot of courage to place a child for adoption, and I've met many people who feel guilty about giving up a grandchild, so they keep and raise the grandchild even though they really don't want to. In the end, even though you would likely love and provide good care for the child, accept your gut feeling and go with it. You may not know what is best until the baby is born, but if you still feel the same afterward, I pray you will have the courage to proceed with termination and adoption. I'd be happy to share more of my personal experiences with the termination and adoption process if you would like to private message me.