First, take a deep breath. Both of you, hold her tight, give her a big bear hug (if she likes them) and have you both calm down a bit.
Meltdowns are common amongst those of us with SPD. The thought is that in the AM your body starts out at a fairly good place. As the day goes on, and as each irritating sensation comes into the body, the body gets closer and closer to overloading. For some of us, that overload comes much quicker and easier than others. As we get older we learn to avoid or push aside annoying or irritating sensations, but the younger we are the harder it is to do so. Kids are much more prone to meltdowns because they don't know how to get away from the irritations, and they don't understand why they're different.
Help your daughter calm down by reassuring her that everyone is different and special in their own way, and she has her own talents that make her special as well. (List a couple of things that she likes to do and you know she's good at).
Her "Rages" are quite possibly just meltdowns- a built up combination stressful input that pushes you over the line and sends you spiraling out of control. Do you know whether she's sensory avoidant or seeking?
http://www.sensory-processing-disorder.com/index.html This site here is also a treasure trove of information. Have her sit on your lap and talk about things with her- make her feel included. You're doing a great thing by trying to help her.
*hugs* OT does many wonderful things for a lot of people. It focuses mainly on the vestibular/proprioceptive systems- from what I've read, once those systems are out of whack, the rest of the body is off balanced too. (pun not intended
). Look up videos on youtube if you're curious, ask around, read people's success stories.
There is hope, and you're on the right track.
For now, give your daughter a big hug and let her know how much she's loved and how special she is. For you, take a deep breath and realize that you're doing a wonderful thing to help your daughter out, and you're doing the best you can. Sometimes we all need a little reassurance.
Feel free to swing by the chat sometime, most of the time at least one person is around unless we're all asleep.
Even then, we'll get back to you asap
Also, if you think she'd like to talk to another girl who's a bit older and has gone through what she feels, so that she can see everything will be alright, feel free to pop into the chat with her on your lap.
I'll gladly talk with her (and you!) when I'm around. I'm good friends with a 10 year old boy and his 4 year old sister, and sometimes what helps them calm down is knowing someone is there to listen to them and tell them everything is alright.